How do you demonstrate respect for yourself and your partner?

ALSO..
describe what it means to be able to talk listen and communicate with your psrtner..

does being in a relationship contributeto your sense of identity and seld-esteem.

what do you think is required to manage difficulties/conflicts between relationships?

what do you think happens when you build relationship on passion first.?

and then what do you think happens if you build a relationship on intimacy and commitment first?

pleas and thankyou.

1. to communicate with your partner, you listen when he/she talks and if there’s anything bothering you about your partner or relationship, you should talk about it. communication is KEY!

2. if you’re in a good relationship where there is love and mutual respect, it improves your life positively and if you’re in an abusive relationship, your life will be miserable

3. to manage conflicts/difficulties in a relationship, you’ll have to be patient and talk about your issues without being confrontational or argumentative and really listen to the issues raised by your partner. NEVER ignore anything that is said. it’s usually the little things that can make or break a relationship

4. when the passion dies the relationship dies

5. a relationship should be based more on trust, understanding, love…however, one built on intimacy and commitment could lead to “happily ever after”.

Lastly, if you don’t respect yourself, you won’t respect your partner. how can any of us teach you how to respect yourself or your partner if you don’t know how?

Black hair care question : I intentionally underprocessed my relaxer because I did not want bone str8 results?

Instead of leaving it on for 20 min , I left it on for 10 . I did this on purpose because I wanted my hair to be only a LITTLE BIT straight . Will the straightness last until my hair grows out ?

Or because It was under processed , will it become kinky and unmanageable again a short time later?

It depends on what kind of hair you had and what kind of chemicals you used. If you used a box relaxer it will last longer than time for you to relax again but it will eventually go away completely if you don’t apply chemicals for a long time. If you have really thick, coarse hair this affect will go away alot quicker. You can try using some Shea butter. Melt it and put on plastic cap and sit under the dryer like you are processing color. Sometimes we think our hair is worse off than it really is because it is very tangly. Kinky and tangles are two different things. You can manage kinky much easier than tangles. My daughter has Indian hair; but it is very easily tangled. These tangles combined with her African heritage is a nighmare. Conditioning and moisture works best.

african american hair styles?

Even after i get a relaxer my hair still frizzes. SO does any body have any tips or hair styles to not make it frizz. i like to were my hair down or with a band and what is the best flat iron for african american hair.
THANK YOU
GOD BLESS

It is not best for anyone to flat iron as it is excessive heat directly on the hair shaft, and eventually you will experience breakage. Use conditioner each time you wash and try hot oil treatments to treat dry hair.

GL

How can you get a black guy hair to grow really fast for braids. Seriously I need to know.?

He wants braids

You just have to wait until it gets long enough to braid. Then keep it braided and then it should grow a little faster.

What is your opinion on non-black males with cornrows/or braids?

I am a Pacific Islander, dark toned skin, male. I want to get my hair braided. I know there will be haters, but and I truly respect the hairstyle and I highly disagree with all the stereotypes of cornrows=”black thug”

- Eh, it may work

Hopefully since you’re a Pacific Islander you’re hair won’t be so straight like most Asian people because if it is, braiding your hair will be a complete waste of time because the style wil not stay in your hair

Would hair care products for African American hair benefit my bleached blond hair?

I have long hair that I recently bleached to platinum blond. I was wondering if the products for African American hair might benefit my hair and help it get healthy again better than regular hair products. It’s very dry/brittle and very weak right now. If so, what products would you recommend?

Hair products that are marketed to African American hair, are no different than products marketed for the general public. The only difference is that products marketed for ethnic hair has oils or are moisturizing products. You will find the same type of hair care products in almost every brand. I am Black, and the I’ve found that the best products for my hair are Paul Mitchell, and Aveda. So, you can use any brand as long as you use a moisturizing shampoo, conditioner, and use a leave-in conditioner. Since it’s weak you can try a reconstructing conditioner, and do a deep conditioning once a week.

I’m African and I was wondering if African American hair products work on African hair ?

I am asking this question because african american hair is softer and has defined curls while african hair has tight curls.
Not all african hair is the same, nor is african-american hair. Instead of dealing with nationality, focus on your hair type and find products based on that. Type 4: Kinky hair If your hair falls into the Type 4 category, then it is kinky, or very tightly curled. Generally, Type 4 hair is very wiry, very tightly coiled and very, very fragile. Like Type 3 hair (Lisa Bonet), Type 4 hair appears to be coarse, but it is actually quite fine, with lots and lots of this strands densely packed together. Healthy Type 4 hair won’t shine, but it will have sheen. It will be soft to the touch and will pass the strand test with ease. It will feel more silky than it will look shiny. Oprah, Whoopi Goldberg and the actress Angela Bassett are all Type 4s. Type 4 hairs looks tough and durable, but looks can be deceiving. If you have Type 4 hair, you already know that it is the most fragile hair around. Why? Type 4 hair has fewer cuticle layers than any other hair type, which means that it has less natural protection from the damage you inflict by combing, brushing, curling, blow-drying and straightening it. The more cuticle layers in a single strand of hair, the more protection it has from damage. Each time you damage your hair – fire up the curling iron, fry it with chemicals – you break down a cuticle layer, robbing your hair of much-needed moisture. I cannot emphasize this enough. It’s like taking a wire and bending it again and again. Eventually, it’s going to snap and break. Many women with Type 4 hair rely on chemical relaxers to make hair easier to control. In its natural states, sometimes Type 4 hair doesn’t grow very long because every time you comb it, it breaks. (Of course, if you have dreadlocks and never comb them or keep them braided, your hair can and does grow quite long.) There are two subtypes of Type 4 hair: Type 4A, tightly coiled hair that, when stretched, has an “S” pattern, much like curly hair; and Type 4B, which has a “Z” pattern, less of a defined curl pattern (instead of curling or coiling, the hair bends in sharp angles like the letter “Z”). Type 4A tends to have more moisture than Type 4B, which will have a wiry texture. But what if your hair has been chemically straightened? How can you tell which subtype you belong to if your hair is relaxed? You’ll need at least one inch of new growth to tell. Pull at the roots. If you can see a definite curl pattern, then it’s an A, if not, then it’s a B. Type 4 hair can range from fine/thin to wiry/coarse strand texture. Generally, this hair is densely packed to give the appearance of very thick but fragile hair. 4a hair has a clearly visible curl and wave pattern that ranges from pen size curls to pen spring size coils. 4b hair has a tighter wave pattern and kinks of various size. This texture does not exhibit the shine or silkiness of looser type curls, but instead has sheen, and a soft, almost cotton-like feel. As with other types of curly hair, showing the true length can be an extra challenge, as the hair may grow “up” or “out” before starting to hang down. In its unlocked/unbraided state, type 4 hair is known to shrink up to 75% of the actual hair length. With the proper care and technique, type 4 hair is indeed resilient, manageable, durable, growable and easy to control.

The hottest thing a women can ever do is…..RESPECT YOURSELF?

A woman respecting herself is very sexy. If a woman respects herself than everything will just come to her (including a good guy). Even when it comes to looking good, if a woman respects herself and her body than she won't let herself get fat, or look rundown, or look like some skank. If a woman respects herself than she won't let herself be with some man that doesn't treat her right. She will say to herself "I'm too good for this sh*t" and she will just leave. I am posting this because there isn't enough women out there who do respect themselves. And it is sad, and for us guys who are looking for a good women it is becoming very hard to find one. So please do yourself a favor and RESPECT YOURSELF, Respect your body, Respect your mind, and everything else in life will come with do time.

True. Very. Very. True.
The hard part is finding a guy who will respect you for respecting yourself, though. THATS where I'M at.

What is the correct and NON DERROGATORY way of referring to African American hair?

I am developing a customizable product for the African American market but I do not want to be perceived as politically incorrect. I just want to give an option of hair styles. I would refer as "curly" the way little Victorian girls had their hair done; how do I offer the African American type of curly? Thanks!

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS CURLY FOR AFRICAN AMERICAN HAIR. USE THE WORDING PRODUCTS FOR PEOPLE OF COLOR. I WOULD NOT BE OFFENDED BY IT.
OUR HAIR STYLES WOULD BE:
1. NATURAL
2. PRESSED
3. PRESSED AND CURLED
4. RELAXED/PERMED
5. WRAPPED STYLES
6. HAIR ADDED (WEAVES, BRAIDS, ETC.)

What are good hair products for a child that is mixed with Native American and Black?

I have a 4 yr. old daughter who is 3/4 Native American and 1/4 Black and her hair is very coarse. She has very long hair and some of it wants to curl. It's not so much thick yet, but it looks dry and wants to frizz. What will help keep moisture in? I thought about using African American products made for children, but I'm not too sure. I don't won't to put any oil in her hair that will make her hair look like it hasn't been washed. Also, I didn't want to use any products that will damage her hair. Plus, what will help her baby hairs grow? Her hair doesn't seem to be growing much in the bang area/many fly aways. I thought about giving her bangs, but she doesn't have enough to make bangs, plus isn't long enough. Any suggestions?

I would say use "Wild Root" moisturizing lotion. My sister used it on my niece's thick and curly hair for years. Eventually, she ended up relaxing it, but I would hold off on that for at lease 5 more years. I use to use "Pink Lotion" moisturizing lotion. I would say it's okay, but it builds up in the hair, therefore it would need to be washed more often. That's any product you put in your hair, though. Build up is normal. Use a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner (Motions has a good line of "Lavishing" shampoo and conditioner, or try Silk Elements. They can both be found at Sally Beauty Supply.) Also, use of an entire line would be the best thing to do. Products are made to work together, therefore, they would obtain better results, then if you mixed and matched. Kemi Oyl is a great light oil that I use on a daily basis. I just went through a dry phase with my hair, and after one use of a new shampoo and conditioner (Silk Elements "Luxury Moisturizing shampoo and deep conditioner), I saw a big change in breakage and it really does make it silkier! Good luck! Ooh, also- get her ends trimmed every 6-8 weeks to minimize split ends which make hair frizz more easily!